Unanticipated Transformation

Background
Ridam: 43 year old working in a private company. Married to Rina for over 14 years.

Rina: A bright woman married to Ridam.

Anya: Ridam's sister-in-law.

Deep: Common friend of Ridam and me

Ridam had helped his sister-in-law, Anya, in finding a job and settling down. Anya reciprocated his support with lots of love, affection and gratitude. In due course of time with Anya’s career shaping up and with the proximity to Ridam, she was infatuated to the extent, that her only goal in life was to marry Ridam. She attempted in several ways to convince him including, taking her own life to pursue her goal. With all this going on, Ridam and Rina's marital relationship was strained along with his other social and professional responsibilities. My friend, Deep who was close to Ridam & Anya referred this challenging case to me in 2005 for counseling despite the fact that it was beyond the scope of my domain.

Ridam’s wife, Rina was patient and understanding all along and ready for any solution to attain happiness. Ridam and Anya came back to me in December 2007 and informed me about their decision to get married . I was supportive of their decision thinking that was the only solution. Deep was disillusioned with my decision and as a conservative person he wanted to normalize the relationship according to Indian social norms.

On Deep's insistence, Ridam came with Anya after 6 months on June 7th, 2008 for further counseling. There was nothing to advise them as they were already living together and wanted to seek my moral support. However, Ridam disclosed to me a warning by an astrologer, that as long as he stays with his wife, he would be successful in his life. He was also told that at the age of 53, he would leave the material world and its associated pleasures to follow a totally devoted spiritual path. For me, it was very hard to comprehend because he was materialistic, selfish and without any understanding of spiritual principles. He loved eating, smoking and drinking socially, enjoying his life, was a ruthless administrator at work and known popularly as a fearless go-getter who would pursue his personal desires strongly.

Unanticipated transformation

On June 21, 2008, Ridam, Rina and Anya came back together with some expectation to solve their problem. I was not sure how to tackle the situation other than seeking spiritual help. It was probably the first ever meditation for Ridam; soon, after closing his eyes there was a thud, he was rolling on the ground, breaking his expensive eye glasses. He was making weird expressions, whistling and making meowing sounds with strange animal like behavior. Both his wife and sister-in-law were smiling and accolading his acting skills. He was left alone and the sisters were taken out to explain the possibility of an evil entity affecting him probably the cause of their turmoil. After an hour he came out from the trance and explained: There were many black figures, deformed bodies, rape, sexual patterns, murder and other negative scenes. There was only a streak of light and he was exhausted. I had a ray of hope, which was communicated to the family.

On subsequent meditation sessions, there was a gradual transformation from black energy to more celestial light which was encouraging. Glimpses of Sarodama, Ramkrishna, Sai Baba, Jesus, Buddha and Ma Kali with intermittent distractions from black figures.

Anya was depressed with Ridam's transformation and loosing hope of getting him back. She attempted suicide on June 26th with large doses of sedatives, however recovered after stomach wash from emergency department.

The meditation sessions continued with the witnessing of God, Goddesses and Celestial light. In one of the sessions, Devi Kali instructed Ridam to perform Sandhya Pooja for Anya by standing on one leg wearing a red bordered sari, covering her head. She also explained the dedicating mudra (hand posture). She also gave a mantra to perform the pooja near the banks of Ganges in front of Tulsi tree. Appearance of Mahatama Gandhi, in an old dhoti, instructing him to follow the path of truth at all cost was also remarkable.